- When you enter “fight or flight” mode, you are losing the ability of thinking rationally. Also, your counterpart will sense your emotion and start feeling similar way
- Common sign is that your muscle gets tense too. You should start deep breathing - inhale through nose for 5 seconds, hole for a moment, and then exhale. Note this technique is common in fast-sleeping methods too.
- Standing up and walking around helps activiating thinking part of the brain
- Come up with a neutral phase to remind yourself to stay calm
- Trying separating thoughts and emotion. This distances yourself from feelings and helps understand WHY you feel this way
- Take a break, and give up a neutral reason to stand up and pause conversation
- Let the other side vent. Be empathetic and not defensive
- Fake your emotions sparsingly because it is hugely draining, i.e., only when you know your current emotion is really imappropriate for the current scenario
- To get out of the negative emotion, change environment and switch focus if possible. Disconnet from outside world - cut off interruptions and noises
- If you have a hard time getting out of negative emotion, try delaying your reaction as much as you can
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